One of the most painful things I’ve ever experienced is giving my all to something, only to feel like a complete shell of myself. I’d made a habit of treating other people’s aspirations for me like the pinnacle of perfection.

I was trying so hard to win on their terms, but I honestly couldn’t even tell you what I wanted if I had tried. I was aware of it for more than a decade before I was able to finally shed that layer.

 

Eventually, I discovered that trusting your own sense of things is a bit of a formula, involving a combination of intuitive knowing and personal values. Once I learned how to enact both and guide my choices through them, everything truly changed for me.

Now I spend my time helping people learn the same process.